The “It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle” is an informative book that describes how problems shift from generations to generation. Mark Wolynn is the author of this best-selling book. Mark is the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco. He trains clinicians and helps peoples who are struggling with depression, anxiety, chronic pain and illness. Mark Wolynn describes that latest scientific research in traumatic legacies passed down in families through generations. Mark Wolynn worked with groups and individuals on a therapeutic level for twenty years. He also offers a pragmatic and perspective guide to his method. Mark provides a way to discover the fears and anxieties conveyed through behaviour and physical symptoms. Furthermore, Mark Wolynn has a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey towards healing. Techniques for developing genogram family tree, create a map of experiences going back through the generations. All in all, “It Didn’t Start with You” is an informative book that describes how problems shift from generation to generations and give an ideal solution to overcome these problems.

The “Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up’s Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents” is a great book for anyone with a parent or family member that’s Narcissistic. Brown EdD is the author of this book. This book focuses more on those parents/caregivers who are on the right side of the bell curve. Those more toward the midlle may have caused as much harm, but be less obvious to the reader. It also assumes that the parent figure is still operating from a narcissitic vantage point. Parents can & do grow and learn from mistakes, they may have been narcissistic to some degree in a child’s formative years and moved beyond those traits. As adult children, our parents may even be more emotionally and psychologically immature than the “child.” The book provides helpful exercises for adult children. Expect you find that hope after you have learned enough to work this educational book through. We highly recommend this book to anyone suffering from the aftereffects of being raised by a narcissistic parent and/or anyone who wants to learn more about the aftereffects so that you might be of some help yourself.